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Being a stay at home parent sounds like a dream come true, huh? If you were my spouse I’d prefer you be the one working, because I wouldn’t be able to get through an entire day of house work, child care AND listening to a grown man bitch about how much harder he works. Maybe you can take your wife to work with you and you can show her what she needs to be doing in order to be deemed an equal in your eyes. Most sahm come from middle class, we can’t afford the upper class sahm lifestyle you seem to know so much about. You got your info from out bitching working husband. Usually, you wouldn’t ask a chef how your steak taste, being that you are the one eating it and he can only express an opinion from his perspective.
There are, without a doubt, working moms who are overwhelmed, stressed, and even miserable trying to pursue a career while balancing the expectations placed on them as mothers. That was more than half of my income as teacher, and about $500 more than our mortgage. I managed to find an online teaching job with VIPKid, and that has helped recoup the loss of income after the expense of daycare.
Most Moms Agree Staying At Home With Kids Is Harder Than Going To Work
They’re sometimes accused of not being good role models for kids growing up in a society that puts a greater value on careers than it does on homemaking. Stay-at-home moms feel guilty for being exhausted and worry they’re not keeping the house neat enough or taking good enough care of the kids, even when their husbands aren’t complaining. For example, I rarely got up to take care of any late night infant/toddler problems. I had to work the next day – and I don’t know about you guys, but I can’t nap at work, while my wife most certainly can nap when the kids nap.
People often think being a SAHM is easy because they don’t have to clock in or clock out. They think SAHMs watch television, are lazy and pathetic, have little responsibility, or are bored being home with their kids all day. "There's never been a sustained decline in mothers' employment until the last 5 years," he says, noting that women's employment rates have survived other recessions. "It may be a testament to this recession, or a testament to the squeeze on women to stay home." This is significant because, for four decades, women's labor participation rates consistently climbed, from 40.8% in 1970 to 57.5% in 2000.
– A Stay-Home Mom Always Puts Herself Last
To be stay-at-home moms means going through enormous sacrifices as caregivers for the sake of children, from chores, and choices for married life. It isn’t just mom who needs understanding and empathy during the transition to parenthood, however. Being the sole provider for not just your wife but your child often comes with incredible pressure and stress that your wife might not think about or understand. In addition to making an effort to understand what their working husbands are going through, it’s helpful for stay-at-home moms to make dads feel included and important to the baby’s development.
For instance, if you choose to stay home or work part time, finances could be stretched thin. In such cases, experts advise being strong within yourself, remembering why your choice is the best for you and your family. Then think about how you can cope with the situation.
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Parenting is never easy, and we should all support one another. Focus on doing what is best for your family, but recognize the essential role stay-home moms play in society. Regular employers legally have to provide a lunch break for full-time employees. However, when your child is your boss, they don’t follow the same standards. Many times, moms end up eating their lunch standing up in the kitchen, not finishing before it gets cold. When a parent stays home with the kids, they don’t get to take breaks whenever they want.
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But when you’re trying to determine whether you want to be a working mom or stay at home mom, follow those few simple guidelines above to help you determine which one might be best for you. Instead of pitting moms against each other, we should be banding together and supporting one another, because being a mom is difficult either way. Besides, they might bring up points that you haven’t thought of. And if you’re going to make a major change that could impact your finances or another aspect of your household, you should be in agreement about what that major change will look like.
The only stay at home moms who can truly claim to “work” are those with 5 or more kids. Well your children going to hospital all the time is a sign your genes are weak. Don’t take them to doctors…let Natural Selection take care of them. Also 99% of moms have carpools especially stay at home moms which cuts down big time on your expectations to drive the kiddies around. When the kids were babies, I nursed them myself as do so many mothers today.
Most meals were cooked by her, or on occasion, together. Most of the bill paying and domestic stuff (insurance, Dr. visits, home decoration) were also her’s. The important fact is that this was worked out PRIOR to having children, by discussing what sort of life we wanted (two working parents+nanny/daycare or stay-at-home mom). In the end, we settled on the mom-at-home being the healthier option, then set the rules around what that looks like. Can’t make up my mind on if you’re actually being sincere or aiming for “shocking” and exaggeration.
Now, any husband that has a wife that does her job, I don’t care what his job is, he will tell you his wife is AMAZING AND WONDERFUL. He will say himself that he would never be able to do what she does. Not bad, but you should have looked at the graphic chosen for your article to understand the reality – upper class moms don’t even do the work you describe, they delegate it. I guess I will never understand a woman’s desire to be owned and enslaved by a man. To add to that, I don’t want to look back on my life and reflect on what a nagging, cunty, lazy piece of shit I was for being a fucking housewife for 40 years. It’s too easy to be a stay at home mom because of ever-advancing technology. In other times, tasks would take longer and more of the mom’s day would be filled up doing other homely duties.
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I don’t think you actually read the article. As a stay-at-home mom or dad, when you’re sick, there is no time off. When you and your child are sick, the sheer willpower required to make it through the day can be incredible.
Instead, they get up and do their jobs despite fevers or headaches. No matter how horrible they feel, they have to prepare meals, clean and look after their family. Sarah Barkley is a lifestyle blogger and freelance writer with a Bachelor's Degree in Literature from Baker College. She is experienced in all things related to parenting, marriage, and life as a millennial parent, but loves to learn new things. She enjoys the research that goes into a strong article, and no topic is off-limits to Sarah. When she isn't writing, she is immersed in a book or watching Gilmore Girls.
They have to wake up early enough to get themselves ready, plus their little kids, plus have enough time to drop them off at child care. I then went into our closet and shut that door as well. One night as I rocked the baby to sleep, I just sobbed.
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